We use many things to understand or to project our understanding of the world, such as our speech - the words we use to describe things are just a concept, an Idea of what the actual thing is - however, that is still somewhat akin to pointing toward the moon and thinking the tip of the finger is what is referred to. We can think all types of wondrous things but they aren't real, they aren't the actual thing itself. Just because we say something happens with something else, doesn't mean that it necessarily does causally, or that it does all of the time. These objects stay how they were before, separate, yet can meet in a miriad of ways.
At the end of the day I may be right, I may be wrong, but I share this hoping I am one or the other.